Sahih Bukhari 1299

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْمُثَنَّى ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَهَّابِ , قَالَ : سَمِعْتُ يَحْيَى , قَالَ : أَخْبَرَتْنِي عَمْرَةُ , قَالَتْ : سَمِعْتُ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا , قَالَتْ : لَمَّا جَاءَ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَتْلُ ابْنِ حَارِثَةَ ، وَجَعْفَرٍ وَابْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ , وَأَنَا أَنْظُرُ مِنْ صَائِرِ الْبَابِ شَقِّ الْبَابِ ، فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ , فَقَالَ : إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ وَذَكَرَ بُكَاءَهُنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ ، فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ الثَّانِيَةَ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ , فَقَالَ : انْهَهُنَّ ، فَأَتَاهُ الثَّالِثَةَ , قَالَ : وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ غَلَبْنَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ , فَزَعَمَتْ أَنَّهُ قَالَ : فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ , فَقُلْتُ : أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَكَ لَمْ تَفْعَلْ مَا أَمَرَكَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَلَمْ تَتْرُكْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مِنَ الْعَنَاءِ .

Narrated `Aisha: When the Prophet got the news of the death of Ibn Haritha, Ja`far and Ibn Rawaha he sat down and looked sad and I was looking at him through the chink of the door. A man came and told him about the crying of the women of Ja`far. The Prophet ordered him to forbid them. The man went and came back saying that he had told them but they did not listen to him. The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said, Forbid them. So again he went and came back for the third time and said, O Allah's Apostle! By Allah, they did not listen to us at all. (`Aisha added): Allah's Apostle ordered him to go and put dust in their mouths. I said, (to that man) May Allah stick your nose in the dust (i.e. humiliate you)! You could neither (persuade the women to) fulfill the order of Allah's Apostle nor did you relieve Allah's Apostle from fatigue.